Hadith Prophet Muhammad SAW, riwayat at Tirmidhi
Have you identified yet the trigger factors that makes you angry or 'lose your temper'?
Anger is an emotion and like any emotion, we cannot touch, see, smell or hear but it is something that we can definitely feel...
The feeling of anger can however trigger some physiological responses in the body. We will detect the changes in our breathing, it may become more rapid and shallow...we may detect that our heart beats faster...we may become sweaty, shaking, hot flushes...our muscles tense up and we may grit out teeth...our tone of voice may become higher and we might feel a lump in our throat...all of these are signs and symptoms of anger.
It is important to recognise when we are angry in order to prepare ourselves to deal with our anger. When anger strikes, our judgment gets clouded and we might find it difficult to think clearly. Our perception of the situation may become exaggerated and often phrases such as..."always" or "never" will appear in our speech such as "You never listen to me!" or "You are always doing this!". Our ideas may become rigid and we lose the ability to discuss objectively.
Breakwell (1997) describes the 'anger - assault' cycle.
Anger does not necessarily lead to violence or assault however, the threshold of an act of assault is lowered when a person is angry.
Breakwell describes a 5 - stage process
A. The trigger phase - where a trigger factor setting off the anger
B. Escalation phase - the anger level starts to ascend - at this point, the person can still control his anger and the anger can either escalate or dissipates.
C. Critical phase - once the anger has reached this phase, it is difficult to use any calming method
D. Recovery phase - the anger starts to cool down, at this phase the anger might be re-triggered so, be careful
E. Post crisis phase - the ability to think clearly returns and the person is almost back to normal.
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