Sunday 25 March 2012

The wind of change. Where will this lead us?

The tide is changing... the wind is blowing from a different direction....





 

Nations rise and fall

We are witnessing an unprecedented phenomenon starting with the Arab spring

We have seen the power of the people and how an individual could change the course of history without even realizing it. Would anyone have thought how the frustration and desperation of a 26 year old man, Mohamed Bouazizi who set himself alight in defiance of the Tunisian authorities could lead to the toppling of an oppressive dictator?


So far we have seen demonstrations in Egypt, Yemen, Libya and Syria. We have seen demonstrations in Greece, London and Occupy Wall Street movements. The people are waking up and becoming more aware of the injustice caused by the present Capitalist system. The people who were asleep have woken up to demand for a better system, a more accountable government and they have started to realize that the power is in their hands. They are rejecting corporate control over governments and realizing that poverty is not caused by lack of resources but through inequality and lack of proper distribution.


However, the problem with mass movement is no one can truly predict where things are heading. It is almost like watching a flock of birds in the sky; you never quite know which direction they will turn. People recognise the problem but not necessarily the solution. The success of the Egyptian people in removing the Mubarak regime has still not reached a final conclusion. There is still confusion as to what the people truly want. Is it Islam or is it democracy? Do the people want Islam or secularism? What do the people want? 


This lack of direction brings a sign of danger that society may fall into anarchy and external forces may use the opportunity to cease control of the situation and impose another puppet government to secure their own agenda. 

The attempt of sincere Islamic political parties to ‘control’ and influence the direction of the mass movement is an intricate and fragile task. 

Change is inevitable but what form of change and where is the change heading? People decide when they want to change and what they want to become. This is so for individuals and more challenging for societies. Permanent change is never achieve through force, it is not imposed rather it is the willingness of the people to accept the change and to embrace it. 


It is the nature of political and ideological groups to try to influence the public with their ideas and opinions. However, in their attempt to change the people, it is necessary for them to realize that it is not merely ideas but they also need to acknowledge the feelings and emotions of the people. 


When alienation occurs and a gap is formed between those who impose and those who fail to see the relevance of it to their reality; there will be resistance. Resistance from the people will cause frustration to those who wish to see change towards a positive direction. Frustration will eventually lead to further gap.

Let’s take an example of a doctor wishing to impose change on a patient’s lifestyle. The patient suffers from Diabetes Mellitus. The doctor thinks it is important for the patient to change for their own good. However, change will not occur through force or the doctor imposing his viewpoint on the patient. The doctor needs to understand the level at which the patient is at. Is the patient ready for change? Is the patient willing to listen? The ability to gauge a person’s readiness and willingness is as important as the ability to give a good speech and impart knowledge.

The prophet SAW was a master of social change. He changed society from a state of jahilliyah to enlightenment. He did it through introducing new ideas, addressing the ordinary people, making them aware of the injustice practices at the time such as cheating in the market place. He addressed the issues of corruption of the rich and oppression of the poor. He addressed the issue of beliefs and thoughts but he also addressed the emotions of the people. He was living among them. They were his family, his friends and his people. He suffered what they suffered, he felt everything that they felt and he was aware of how things affected the people. 

The change in the Muslim world is inevitable. After years of injustice and oppression, people have finally woken up and have the courage to stand up against it. However, the next phase of change is the readiness and willingness to reject the secular man made system and to have the strength and confidence to accept Islam not just as an individual belief but as a political system. This is not an easy task as most of us have never lived under the Khilafah (Caliphate) system. Only a few people have ever heard about it. It was not taught to us as part of our history. 

The present system is everything we’ve ever known. Our education system has not allowed us to think outside the box. However, there is love for Allah and Islam. The next task would be to sow the seed of CONFIDENCE in the ummah. It is the confidence that the Islamic system is what we need to correct the oppression and injustice faced in our countries. Without that confidence in Islam as a viable system in the 21st century, the people will still hold on to the secular democratic system because that is all they know and familiarity equals security and comfort even if the familiar thing is a lion or a tiger. 


We are fortunate because we have a history of Islamic civilisation that spanned for a 1000 years. It was under Islam that Muslims and all citizens under the Caliphate flourished in education, science, technology, architecture and all aspects of life. History will testify that it was when Muslims abandoned Islam, when the Caliphate was removed in 1924 that we lost our honour, our protection and justice.




Saturday 24 March 2012

The Hunger Game

I watched a movie called "The Hunger Game" today. It was introduced by my daughter who has read the entire trilogy. Since it is from a book so, I do not feel guilty for this spoilers so BEWARE >>>>>> SPOILERS!!!

Katniss Everdeen

I am so smitten by the main character, Katniss Everdeen played by Jennifer Lawrence. She portrayed a very strong and brave character. The character imparted an important lesson in life that strength comes not from hate, anger or vengence but strength comes from love and compassion. Katniss volunteered herself as a contestant in the deadly 'Hunger Game' in order to replace her sister. She did the most daring move in order to save her sister's life.


When I sat with my daughter at Secret Recipe sharing a piece of cake with hot chocolate. I told her this. I said "Do you know where strength comes from?"
She said "No"
I told her that strength comes from everything that Allah SWT tells us to be and the most important feeling that gives us strength is love. I told her that the Prophet Muhammad SAW is the strongest person to have ever lived. He carried the burden of the message of Islam to the whole of mankind and his strength came from his love for Allah, for the message, for us...his followers, his Ummah.


My daughter then looked at me funny and said that I sounded like Dumbledore (well...except of course Dumbledore does not give usrah on Islam)


"Well..." I laughed and laughed and couldn't stop laughing for a while before saying "It doesn't matter, you can pretend we are in one of the scenes in Harry Potter with Mummydore"


Allah SWT tells us that we should love Him above all others and to love our Prophet SAW. He tells us not to hate, to not have vengence but to forgive. He tells us to have mercy on every soul and every living creature. Love is not something that one can rationalize...if we rationalize too much about love then the love will turn to hate, anger or disappointment. A pregnant mother has such high hopes and expectations for her child, that the child will be healthy, intelligent and beautiful but if she was to give birth to a child who is mentally handicapped or disabled in some way, she would still love the child and she would not rationalize her love.


The other thing that gives us strength is Trust. Allah SWT tells us to have Tawakkal in Him which is really about trust. He tells us to trust Him so deeply that we put our lives, our past, present and future in His hands. He also tells us to have hope, to have hope in Him, in His forgiveness, His Mercy and that He will give us what is best for us. We just have to ask and be patient.


And when my servants ask you concerning Me, then surely I am very near; I answer the supplicant when he calls upon Me, so they should answer My call and believe in Me, that they may walk the right way Surah Al Baqarah: 186



Cato is Katniss biggest competitor


Cato on the other hand is a villain. He appears as a heartless, cold blooded killer but every person is a product of his past experiences. That is the weakness and the limitations of every person, every human being. We are who we are because we have learned to think, feel and respond in a certain way. The way we 'learn' is through experiences. Everything that ever happened to us is stored in our subconscious or we can talk about the Hippocampus - Amygdala - Neocortex if you want to be more scientific.

Our experiences determines how we will behave whenever we encounter a similar event. At the end of the movie, we saw something in Cato despite the tough exterior there is weakness inside of him when he said he would kill one last time..."and why not, this is all I've ever known" He was born and brought up for only one purpose, trained to win this 'Hunger Game'. He was trained to kill, to fight, to be brutal but that hasn't made him strong rather it made him weak. Anger, hate, brutality and arrogance will only destroy the person from within but love, patience, compassion and forgiveness are the virtues that bring strength and freedom to the inner self.



These are all the virtues that are mentioned in the Qur'an and Hadith of Rasullullah SAW




Abu Said narrated that the Prophet SAW said "The one who tries to have patience, Allah will grant him patience. And no one has been given a better or larger gift than patience."




On the authority of Anas, who said: I heard the messenger of Allah say:
Allah the Almighty has said: “O son of Adam, so long as you call upon Me and ask of Me, I shall forgive you for what you have done, and I shall not mind. O son of Adam, were your sins to reach the clouds of the sky and were you then to ask forgiveness of Me, I would forgive you. O son of Adam, were you to come to Me with sins nearly as great as the earth and were you then to face Me, ascribing no partner to Me, I would bring you forgiveness nearly as great as its.”

Wednesday 21 March 2012

Finding a golden gem

Most of the time as a doctor, I hope to give strength to my patients...but sometimes it is the patient who gives strength to me. Today I met an amazing lady who brought her brother to consult me. As we chatted through the consultation, she told me her story. Her 17-year old son died of cancer a few years ago and she spoke about the time they spent together and how she looked after him. She spoke about his strength as a young person dealing with a terminal illness.

She told me the story of how she helped her son come to terms with the diagnosis and the possibility of death. She told him to face each day as it comes, to not think about death but what you can do everyday whilst you're still alive. She told him that his illness came from Allah...no one would ask for such a thing for themselves and how she would rather ask Allah to give the illness to her than to her son but Allah chose him and it is a blessing because it means that Allah loves him.

She spoke of his last moments and listening to her, I couldn't help but to feel humbled. I was inspired by her strength, her acceptance of the situation and how she dealt with it in such an honorable way. I know there are so many carers out there who are like her, who use their tragic experience to help and give strength to others.

For me, the best part of my job is to find these golden gems. These are people who may not radically change the world but they inspire the people around them. They are the people who radiate with compassion and strength. I am so blessed to have such patients... they give me more than what I could possibly give to them. May Allah SWT reward her for her patience.

Friday 16 March 2012

Holiday in Cameron Highlands

We are in Cameron Highlands, on the final day of our 3-day holiday. We are sitting at the Hill Station Cafe having breakfast. We are having strawberry waffles, honey waffles and thosa. We are sipping Teh Tarik and strawberry drinks listening to some music and the wind is blowing.


We left Kuala Lumpur at around 8am, took the PLUS highway towards Ipoh. We were debating about going through the Tapah route or Simpang Pulai. In the end, we chose the 'puke-y' way i.e. Tapah. It was a scary windy single lane with two-way traffic going up and up the hill. Occasionally, you'd come face to face with a bus or a lorry that is about to collide with you head on or...fall into the ravine below. The kids were going GREEN!!! but I was still singing...

There is no way I'm going down the hill the same way. The last time, we went down through the Tapah route, little Luqy, my 5-year old puked. I had to stop the car by the side of the ravine. Luckily I had lots of tissues and towels. Whilst I was tidying him up, a pack of dogs came over to say 'hi' and I was squeezing myself in the back seat trying to get away from those dogs. It was a panicky moment but I was able to go into my 'doctor' mode and was able to clean up all the mess without throwing up.

This time, our journey up the hill was bearable. We stopped over at the teashop to have a look at souvenirs and then, went down to the tea plantations. From the top it looked like a maze. I can just imagine getting lost in there looking for someone...It was an amazing sight MashaAllah. Along the route to Tanah Rata we saw some English looking cottages which has been transformed into guest houses.

Anyway, we got to Tanah Rata in one piece. We decided to book into a budget hotel. Why waste money on anything expensive? It was RM100 per night and was comfortable enough for us. It was also right in the town centre.

Tanah Rata is a self-contained town on top of Cameron Highlands. It has banks...Maybank, Agro Bank, BSN, HSBC etc...etc..., a post office, a klinik kesihatan with an attached mother and child health (MCH) facilities. It has lots of restaurants including steam boats, Indian food, Cameron satay, cafe, Marrybrown and even a Starbuck's. However, if you're craving for KFC you will have to go down to the next town in Brinchang.

We had lunch and spent the entire evening at the Children's playground. The most unique part of Cameron Highlands is the weather. It is the coolest place in the whole of Malaysia. The weather is like a warm spring day in England with temperature around 23-25 degrees Celcius. You could still walk around with short sleeves when the sun is shining. There are less clouds and the sun is brighter but occasionally, a cool breeze will struck you with a little chill.


At night, it gets pretty cold and there is no need for air conditions. It is nice to snuggle under the duvet covers just like in England. I can imagine, it being the only place in Malaysia that one might enjoy sitting in front of a fireplace at night drinking a nice cup of tea.

The next day, we didn't really want to wake up. Cool weather equals hibernation and we just wanted to sleep all day long. However, our stomachs were grumbling so, we went for breakfast at the Hill Station Cafe.


We then went to look at Robinson's waterfall. The waterfall was beautiful but there was no place to sit down for a picnic. Cameron Highlands is a preferred holiday for those who enjoy the outdoors, jungle trekking or nature walks. There are many known jungle paths, some for gentle walks and some for serious jungle trekking. It was difficult to do all those things with two small children. So, we decided not to go further down the waterfall walk.

We went to visit a strawberry farm and bought two boxes of strawberries for RM30. I asked the man to wash the strawberries for us and he asked if we would like him to sprinkle some sugar or add some chocolate on top of them. I was like..."No no no!!!" Plain fresh strawberries ARE THE BEST. So, we sat in the strawberry farm eating some strawberries. We then went back to the children's playground since that is the only thing that the babies could enjoy.



At night, we played Monopoly.

It is time to go home. This time, we will take the Simpang Pulai exit inshaAllah. Goodbye beautiful weather...

Wednesday 14 March 2012

How to renew your maid's visa in Malaysia without tears

I was totally and utterly amazed at how the process was made so quick and easy for employers.
If this is your first time renewing your maid's visa...
Don't fret! the process is mainly computerized with minimal forms to be filled.
Just make sure you complete the process within 3 months of the visa expiring.

The process is as below:

1. Go to FOMEMA which is at Pusat Bandar Damansara. (please see change of address in comments below) There is a single page form that you need to fill in. Choose the clinic that you would like to conduct the medical examination for your maid. The list is on the board at FOMEMA. You need to bring:

- Maid's passport
- Know her worker's no
- Bank draft - for fees amount, check with FOMEMA. At present for a female is RM190.
- Photocopy of Maid's passport and visa.

new Fomema address is: Changed 25/2/2014
Menara Takaful
level 1, No 4
jalan Sultan Sulaiman
Tel: 03 227222711


The process took virtually half an hour for me. I was given a computer slip to be brought to my chosen clinic.

2. Go to the chosen clinic. The clinic will perform the standard test of checking the urine, Xray, blood and doctor assessment. The process takes around 2-3 hours but you can leave your maid there and go shopping. You can check the results at FOMEMA website within 7-10 days. If your maid has passed her medical examination, the results will say 'proceed to immigration'.

3. Go to immigration. I chose to go to the one at Sri Hartamas which has become my favourite hang out place. The immigration department is within the Kementerian Dalam Negeri (KDN) building adjacent to Mahkamah Syariah. The only problem is lack of parking space but if you're the 'love to walk' type, you can simply park at the Mahkamah Syariah and walk over.

You do not need to fill in any forms. Just bring your maid's passport and your IC. Go to the number counter and take a number. I had to wait around 30-40 minutes but waiting is not a problem when you have a good book to read. When my number was called, I handed over the documents. The lovely immigration officer was very efficient and friendly. She told me to go to the payment counter. You need to check with immigration for the fees. The fees is dependent on the maid's country of origin. I had to pay RM495.00!!!

After completing payment, I handed the passport back to the nice and friendly immigration officer and within 5-10 minutes she returned the passport to me with the visa. I was like..."It's done? Wow! that was quick!"

I don't know what happened but for the first time since I returned to Malaysia, I have to say to a government department, well done for being efficient and for a good experience.

Oh! and if you ever go to Sri Hartamas immigration, you must stop over at Solaris Dutamas which is almost opposite of the KDN building, after the traffic light cross junction by Jalan Duta. It has nice restaurants and coffee shops; just a nice place to hang out with friends.




Monday 5 March 2012

Challenging situation advising a child on da'wah to non-Muslims

It is not easy dealing with kids. They often ask challenging questions. I think that is the reason why parents in the 'olden' days used to say "Don't ask so many questions" or I used to get something like "Only Syaitan ask too many questions" or the typical Malay response "Aku makan garam lebih lama daripada engkau" translated as "I've eaten salt longer than you."

Yeah...try saying that to children nowadays and you might just get a response such as "That's why you have high blood pressure." Kids are smart...so, we need to allow them to express themselves but they need guidance.

Anyway, my 8-year old son asked me a very important but challenging question last week. He has non-Muslim friends and he likes to play with them but sometimes he doesn't know how to deal with them. He doesn't know if he should do da'wah to them or say anything about Islam to them. He is worried that his non-Muslim friends do not know about Jannah and Jahannam. He asked me about it and I wasn't sure how to answer him.

A few days later, we went for a walk at the park and we sat down for breakfast after wards. I said to him..."you know you asked me a question before about non-Muslim friends?"

So, I tried to explain to him the best I could. This is what I said...sort of...

1. First of all the issue of Jannah and Jahannam belongs to Allah. It is not up to us and it is not in our power or control. Allah decides who He wants to put in Jannah and who He wants to put in Jahannam. All we know is what Allah says in the Qur'an. So, when Allah says in the Qur'an 3:85 "And whoever desires a religion other than Islam, it shall not be accepted from him, and in the hereafter he shall be the losers."


We just have to accept this is what Allah says cause it is His Jannah and that is what He has decided.

Sometimes it is normal for humans to say something to make people feel better such as if a person dies and someone says "Don't worry he is in a better place." Truth is can we say something that is not our decision to make? It would be different if we had the power to put people in Jannah but we don't. We can make dua for Muslims but otherwise, the best thing to say is إِنَّا لِلَّهِ وَإِنَّآ إِلَيۡهِ رَٲجِعُونَ

2. At the same time, we should be worried about our position in the hereafter rather than judging anyone else. There is no point in judging anyone. Sometimes people judge others because they are too afraid to reflect on themselves. It is much easier to just point out the faults of other people than to recognize our own faults. Sometimes we fall into the same trap by saying something like..."that person wants to judge me but he/she is not so good either..." inevitably we are judging that person and the cycle goes on and we haven't really addressed the crucial issue of self reflection.

Allah says 39:41 "Surely We have revealed to you the Book with the truth for all mankind; so whoever follows the right way, it is for his own soul and whoever errs, he errs only to its detriment; and you are not a custodian over them."

So, let's look at whether we are following the Book or are we disobeying cause it is really for our own sake in the hereafter, not for anyone else. We can give advice to people but that is about it. Everyone decides for themselves what they want to do and where they want to go.

3. Your children may want to be friends or play with non-Muslims but the most important thing is for them to know who they are, why are they Muslim and for them to be the best Muslim they can be, for the sake of Allah. No one is perfect...we all make mistakes but we need to try our best. Being Muslim does not make us better than anyone else, it just gives us the responsibility to obey Allah and to pass on the message in the best way that we can. We should be proud of Islam but never proud of ourselves. We are only the servants of Allah.

As for non-Muslims, there are many occasions where people have converted by observing Muslims rather than being told anything. However, if they ask about Islam it is important to tell them the Truth. Don't hide things from people to try to appease them. There are no favors in trying to make Islam more palatable.

Sometimes a right 'moment' may come for us to say something to someone about Islam even if it is just to make them have a better understanding but there is no need to preach to anyone. Sometimes we may say the wrong things or make mistakes but we need to learn from them. Certainly, do not call them names or degrade them or insult the things that they worship because Allah says surah 6: 108 Do not insult those whom they invoke other than Allah, lest they should revile Allah in transgression without having knowledge. This is how We have made the deeds of every community attractive in their sight. Then, to their Lord is their return, after which He shall tell them what they have been doing. 


Make people think about things, if they want to think about it...and remember, guidance is from Allah.

Al Baqarah: 256 There is no compulsion in Faith. The correct way has become distinct from the erroneous. Now, whoever rejects the Taghut (the Rebel, the Satan) and believes in Allah has a firm grasp on the strongest ring that never breaks. Allah is All-Hearing, All-Knowing.



Thursday 1 March 2012

Applying for Permanent Residency for children less than six years old in Malaysia

Another long day at Putrajaya today. Had to take annual leave just to pick up the babies permanent residency sticker.

My one simple advice to any parent who wants to apply for PR or citizenship for your children. Try to do it when the child is less than six years old. If the child is less than six years old, the process is simple and quick(er). I add the 'er' because in reality it is not actually that quick and may still take more than a year or two years. It is easier though, trust me...I'm a doctor!

So, I'm going to talk about the PR process cause I've talked about citizenship previously. Just go to the local immigration office closest to you. You have to fill up forms and do lots of photocopying. Make sure you photocopy everything and make extra copies just in case...

You and your child will be called for an interview at the immigration office. If the child is more than six years old, the interview process is more complicated involving other government agencies.

Once the interview is over and paper work sorted, you need to wait around 4-6 weeks before you will receive a letter that says "dengan sukacitanya..." meaning your application is successful.

You will then have to pick up your sticker from the main immigration office at Putrajaya. The 'permit masuk' counter is next to the 'pekerja asing' counter so, don't queue in the wrong counter. The 'entrance permit' counter is virtually empty compared to the 'foreign workers' counter.

Go and see the officer. They will take a photocopy of the letter that they sent to you in the first place, photocopy of the child's passport including the last visa sticker and photocopy of your ID. Give them the child's passport and go off for two hours for lunch or sight seeing. Come back in two hours and the passport with sticker will be returned to you. Oh! and you have to pay a fee...but please check with the immigration office as the amount may change over time.

I don't know if the government offices have become more efficient since I've moved to this country or I've just become accustomed to it. Anyway, going to Putrajaya is always a nice trip for us especially visiting the 'Pink Mosque' by the lake.

IN SEARCH OF THIS TRUTH

  I am in a quest to search for THIS truth. People ask, 'why are you still searching for the truth?’  You have found Islam.  You believe...