Believing in the ones who believe in you

Sometimes you started off thinking that you want to help someone and then, as things move along you realize that you're only making things worse. Then, you realize that you can't help anybody not unless they help themselves and when someone actually says that you've helped them, the only way that you have helped them is because they believe in it even though you're just doing what you normally do and being who you normally are or saying the things that you would normally say. Truth is you haven't done anything extraordinary, it is just the person has found something that inspired them or made them think or made them see things a different way.

Everyone has the capability to 'shine', to be whatever they want to be. Everyone can be good or they can be bad. It all depends on how they view themselves and the world whether positive or negative. It all depends on who they want to be and what they want to do. In the end, regardless of whatever happens to us, we have the choice of how we want to react and how we want things to happen. This is because we are in control of our actions, our choices in life.

Everyone has doubts about themselves and I certainly had doubts about myself when I started my internship but sometimes, you just meet the right person or the right team members that make you believe in yourself. No doubt you see something 'special' about the person but the person is a person with his/her flaws but anyone that makes you feel special and inspire you is worth remembering and worth believing in because they believe in you. I've met some great consultants and colleagues who have made me believe in myself and my ability as a doctor. Even though I may never see them again but I treasure their memories because I remembered how they made me feel about myself and how I appreciated their support.

As we mature through life, we need to hold on to memories and remember the good times, the happy times and to keep the people who mean something to us close. This is because we want to keep growing as a person, to open our hearts to more and more people rather than to shrink away. It really doesn't matter what people do, in the end it is what we do and what we are that is important for our future, to secure our place in Jannah cause that is the final destination. If we can truly focus on that goal with minimal distractions, we will realize that we can be more than what we are. We can be forgiving, we can be generous, we can give our trust, we can be concern, we can be brave, we can have courage to speak the truth and we can carry the burden of the da'wah.

لَا يُكَلِّفُ ٱللَّهُ نَفۡسًا إِلَّا وُسۡعَهَا‌ۚ لَهَا مَا كَسَبَتۡ وَعَلَيۡہَا مَا ٱكۡتَسَبَتۡ‌ۗ رَبَّنَا لَا تُؤَاخِذۡنَآ إِن نَّسِينَآ أَوۡ أَخۡطَأۡنَا‌ۚ رَبَّنَا وَلَا تَحۡمِلۡ عَلَيۡنَآ إِصۡرً۬ا كَمَا حَمَلۡتَهُ ۥ عَلَى ٱلَّذِينَ مِن قَبۡلِنَا‌ۚ رَبَّنَا وَلَا تُحَمِّلۡنَا مَا لَا طَاقَةَ لَنَا بِهِۦ‌ۖ وَٱعۡفُ عَنَّا وَٱغۡفِرۡ لَنَا وَٱرۡحَمۡنَآ‌ۚ أَنتَ مَوۡلَٮٰنَا فَٱنصُرۡنَا عَلَى ٱلۡقَوۡمِ ٱلۡڪَـٰفِرِينَ  

Allah does not burden anyone beyond his capacity. For him is what he has earned, and on him what he has incurred. “Our Lord, do not hold us accountable, if we forget or make a mistake, and, Our Lord, do not place on us such a burden as You have placed on those before us, and, Our Lord, do not make us bear a burden for which we have no strength. And pardon us, and grant us forgiveness, and have mercy on us. You are our Lord. So then help us against the disbelieving people. 

Al - Baqarah: 286

May Allah SWT give us the strength to go through the test of life.